The #1 Mistake Couples Make Before Marriage
March 22, 2017
Saying "I do" is so much more than the wedding day. More than pretty flowers or a gorgeous dress. It's about entering into a lifelong commitment with the one you love, and according to relationship expert, Dr. Deborah Sandella, getting married for the right reasons is the most critical component.
"The biggest mistake people make is deciding to get married because “It’s time,” "I want to have the security of marriage,” or “I’m afraid I won’t find someone else.” Deciding to marry out of worry, fear, scarcity or expecting him/her to change after marriage is not a positive way to enter this long-term, intimate agreement—I promise you!"
So, how can a couple break off their engagement if the marriage isn't right for them? Dr. Sandella suggests first and foremost, compassionate honestly. "Talk about your feelings and consider having a couple's therapist or coach facilitate a discussion," she said. "Having a neutral outsider can help structure the conversation in a constructive, caring way."

Dr. Deborah Sandella PhD, RN is a leading psychotherapist and international best-selling author of Goodbye Hurt & Pain, 7 Simple Steps to Health, Love and Success.

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